In the years between realizing I was trans and finally deciding to take testosterone, I read a lot of blogs written by trans-exclusionary (or TERF) detransitioners. I believed I was obligated to read the stories of people who regretted going on hormones and no longer understood themselves as trans. Many…

A few days ago, I made a post on Instagram about the fact I tend to over-explain things. I’m very accustomed to being misunderstood, and to not having my feelings taken seriously by others, so I go to great pains to communicate my experience as clearly and persuasively as possible…

He’s been up there for just about six years now. For nearly six years, my ex-husband has been a God, and I have gotten to be me.

The transmissions from him are grainy, and the backdrop isn’t grand enough to give off the kind of impression he’d like. It’s too…

Before they had a child, they spent eighteen months hashing out several of the endless dilemmas of parenting. They wanted to have an exhaustive discussion.

“What if it wants to shave its head?” the man said. “Or get a tattoo?”

The woman said, “A child should be allowed to do…

In the author bio for my first book, it says that I am an activist. That bio has found its way onto countless bookseller pages, and appears in all manner of publications and podcast interview descriptions. When I lead workshops or give talks, people introduce me using that bio. …

As someone who believes in abolishing both prisons and the gender binary, one of the biggest misconceptions I encounter is the belief that certain groups are fundamentally “less safe" than others to be around. A lot of people mistakenly believe that the world is filled with dangerous predatory types, whom…

Trigger warning: This piece describes sex, gender dysphoria, and sexual assault.

When I met him, I was telling people I was asexual. …

Two days ago, I opened up Twitter to find out that this shoddy piece of science reporting from Inside Edition was trending:

As soon as I read this headline, the persuasion researcher and science writer in me went completely apoplectic. Inside Edition is not exactly famous for their high quality…