“Historically underrepresented” — by whom? — In a recent Medium post, my friend Emma Barnes suggested a crucial reframe for making accessibility requests: instead of locating the problem within yourself (or within your disability), phrase your request in a way that draws attention to the inaccessibility of your environment. For example, instead of saying that you…

Autistic Advice #8 — Welcome back to Autistic Advice, a semi-regular advice column where I respond to reader questions about neurodiversity, accessibility, disability justice, and self-advocacy from my perspective as an Autistic psychologist. You can send me questions or suggest future entries in the series via my Tumblr ask box, linked here. Today’s question…

People who don’t wish to ‘recover’ still deserve autonomy and care. — I just finished reading the book Saving Our Own Lives by Shira Hassan last week, and it stands out to me as the first book I’ve ever read that applies a harm reduction framework to eating disordered behaviors. The conversation with Gloria Lucas included in the book discusses this subject…

Autistic Advice #7 — Welcome back to Autistic Advice, a semi-regular advice column where I respond to reader questions about neurodiversity, accessibility, disability justice, and self-advocacy from my perspective as an Autistic psychologist. You can send me questions or suggest future entries in the series via my Tumblr ask box, linked here. Today’s question…

No identity promises safety. — I was walking home one Saturday evening when two women began following and screaming at me. “HEY! HEY MAN! HEY SIR! HEY MAN!” one of the women yelled, over and over. She ran across the road and closed up the distance between herself and me. “Can I ask you something?”…

Autistic Advice #6: Choosing the job that’s right for you — and keeping it. — Welcome back to Autistic Advice, a recurring series where I respond to questions about neurodiversity, accessibility, disability justice, and self-advocacy from my perspective as an Autistic psychologist. You can send me questions or suggest future entries in the series via my Tumblr ask box, linked here. Today, I’ll be responding…

If all attachment wounds are interpersonal, how can healing them come from within? — One of the books that kept me company during my week of no posting was Jessica Fern’s Polysecure, a book ostensibly all about building attachment security within polyamorous and non-monogamous relationships. I say ostensibly because while Fern’s book contains several helpful frameworks for understanding attachment threat in non-monogamous relationships…

A social media power-user chooses to touch some grass. — Since I created my Tumblr account over eleven years ago, I don’t think I’ve ever gone more than three days without posting. On a typical day, I will post at least half a dozen times, across a variety of social media platforms. Often far more than that. In the last…

Your therapist is positioned to take your side — that’s both a good and bad thing. — Yesterday, I stumbled upon a tweet that sadly reminds me of numerous avid therapy-goers I’ve met in real life: