From Self-Diagnosis to Self-Realization

Autistic people own the right to define who we are.

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In spaces for Autistic adults, the topic of self-diagnosis can sometimes create a bit of controversy. People tend to fall under one of two camps: either you believe that a person must have a formal assessment and diagnosis of Autism in order to say they’re Autistic, or you support a person’s right to self-diagnose.

That first position looks very respectable to allistic (non-Autistic) society. When Autistic people submit to the diagnostic rules and categories that were created by allistic people, we are being well-behaved, predictable, and obedient. We are letting outsiders define us. When we do this, we’re admitting that neurotypical people know us better than we know ourselves. Sometimes formally diagnosed Autistic people will even lash out and question the legitimacy of self-diagnosed Autistics, helping to maintain and enforce a status quo that allistic people created for us.

Then there’s the latter camp, the one that accepts self-diagnosed Autistic people. This camp is growing in size every day, just as the number of self-diagnosed Autistic people continues to expand. However, many people who support self-diagnosis do so in a tentative, apologetic way. They’ll talk about how difficult it is for some people to get access to an official…