Hi Victoria, thanks for reading and for your sincere questions. I think it may be valuable for you to notice that you are asking people who identify outside of the roles they were assigned at birth to provide an entire framework of what gender is and how one knows that they belong to a gender group.... and we really don't ask people who remain within the box they were assigned as a baby to do that. If you're grappling with questions about what it means to be a woman, a man, feminine, masculine, or nonbinary, the best place to begin to examine those questions is to look to yourself. How do you feel about having been told since you were an infant that you have to be a woman? What does being a woman mean to you? In what ways are other people's expectations limiting or restricting? How would you live differently, if you weren't assigned to that role? Do you wish you had never been assigned to any gender box at all and could have had the freedom to make your own choice? Is it maddening that these confusing contradictory roles and group labels even exist? These questions will get you somewhere that is completely your own. Every trans or nonbinary person is different, but we started by asking such questions. There's no reason why cis people shouldn't do so too. In the end, there really is no such thing as a "cis person" -- just a person who has been told that there's a type of person they are supposed to be who hasn't rejected that, for whatever reason.