How do you know this?

If you believe this is true, how do you know when to stop trying to persuade?

How strong of a “no” does it take for you to relent?

Do you think your attempts at persuasion have ever left a woman feeling pressured, unsafe, uncomfortable, or disregarded?

Breaking someone down is not flirting. Ignoring someone’s lack of consent is not persuasive. If you cannot tell the difference then you have probably made women around you deeply uncomfortable at best. Just because you’ve succeeded in getting someone to have sex with you doesn’t mean you haven’t done something terribly wrong in the process.

In some of your other pieces you come across as a really thoughtful person. Be thoughtful now. Listen. Do not speak. You do not have relevant expertise unless you have been assaulted or pressured. That category includes men but apparently not you.

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