I can hear and feel the sadness that you mention — and though we have a very different outlook on things, it seems like you might be someone really worth having a chat with. Do you want to take this conversation out of the comments and into a more one-on-one space? Let me know, my Twitter DMS or my email inbox are open.
Being open about who I am has not erased sexism from my life. Almost every random person in the world, who doesn’t know me personally, assumes I’m a woman. And if they don’t assume I’m a woman, then I’m read as trans, which is not good for me either. Being public about who I am opened me up to transphobia in addition to the sexism I already sometimes experienced. It was not a “get out of sexism free” card. I think that is a common misconception though.