I think if it causes you pain to consume a piece of art that you once loved, but which is now associated with abuse, you don’t have to work to get over that feeling if you don’t want to. There is some art that, now that I know the creator’s faults, doesn’t hold up for me. Some of Quentin Tarantino’s newer work is that way for me. That said, if you are mourning the loss of beloved media, or have felt like you had to feel guilty about consuming it or could not consume it anymore, I’m here to encourage you to work through that and give yourself permission to still love it. Though again, you never have to if you don’t want to.
I’m Autistic too, but I actually love having complicated, shades-of-grey attitudes towards things (though those multivalenced opinions are still very strongly felt and held). Institutions that allow abuse really disturb me, I have to admit. And I have been associated with organizations that harbored abusers, or which treated employees abusively, and then wanted nothing to do with those organizations as a result.
It kinda depends on the scope and the institutional response, I think…I used to teach at a religious University that treated its LGBT students very poorly, and never rose up to defend them when they were under attack. I was happy to leave that institution because its flaws were so deeply embedded and they were unrepentant about it. At the same time, I’ve taught at an institution that doesn’t treat its adjuncts super well, policy wise, but I have supervisors within that institution that treat me very well and pay me well…so I’ve decided to stick with the flawed super-structure and harbor hope for it getting better. But I don’t think there are clear-cut objective standards for where to draw the line on these things.