I’m bi, but I’ve only ever been with my partner. Should I cheat?

A round-up of advice about monogamy, kink, and the difficult work of treading one’s own sexual path.

I have two quick Autistic Advice entries for you today! Though with the column’s increased focus on sex and kink, I’m really starting to bend the series’ branding to its breaking point. That’s fine by me. This year (and this publication cycle) has been all about abandoning shame for me, and it seems like many readers have been following my lead and considering shucking off their own psychosexual hang-ups.

Regardless, if you have a question for me or a topic that you’d like to see me cover (whether it pertains to neurodiversity, sex, or something else altogether), hit up my Tumblr ask box.

Our first question comes from a bisexual AuDHDer who has only ever been sexual with their monogamous partner, but longs to experience a flirtatious dalliance with a sexy queer stranger:

Thanks for your question, Anon!

Because I am of the mind that the longing for queer expression/recognition/community cannot and should not be met with media consumption, I’m not going to tell you that there is any kind of game that can simulate queer erotic contact in a way that will be remotely…