Let’s not put this on any mental disorder or any cluster of disorders. There are a lot of people with the disorders that are stereotyped as “difficult” who are not rapists, rape apologists, or harassers of victims. People in Cluster B get shit on enough already. These men are a problem because of what they did — and what they continue to do — not because of something we might be tempted to armchair diagnose them with. I have loved ones on Cluster B, and I will not see their lives worsened and the stigma against them deepened in order to insult men whose behavior is reprehensible.

Thank you for your support. I think you’re right that these men might not have even had a genuine desire to get any kind of help, or to be heard, or even to be reassured — part of them must have gotten a thrill from sharing these details with me.

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