Right -- the punishment that men face for violating 'manhood' in society's eyes is swift and remorseless. And I think some of that is because that particular vision of masculinity that cishet society upholds is so sacrosanct. I'm so sorry that you and Lenny and so many others have had to face so much violence. When I started reading as a man more, it was noticable how much more willing people were to be physically confrontational with me.