Seeking an Autism Diagnosis? Here’s Why You Might Want to Rethink That.
Know the costs — and the legal risks.
I literally wrote the book on the large and diverse population of Autistic adults who, for a variety of reasons usually related to marginalization, make it well into adulthood before discovering they have a disability. I call this group of Black, brown, trans, gay, female, elderly, and impoverished Autistics “masked Autistics,” or “maskers,” because we often cope with having an undiagnosed disability by learning to fake neuro-conforming behaviors. Masked Autistics may become so accustomed to hiding our true feelings and compensating for our limitations that we don’t feel in touch with our actually Autistic selves much at all.
A lot of masked Autistics have imposter syndrome about their disability — they think that because they’ve managed to cope thus far with persistent sensory agitation, social confusion, ostracism, and difficulty following vague instructions, that they must not be “disabled enough” to warrant help or a place in the disabled community. Masked Autistics turn their own flawed coping mechanisms against themselves, believing that since they can force themselves to smile ‘normally’ (even if it’s painful), they should continue to grit their teeth and do so. Or that since it’s possible for them to white-knuckle their way…
