Thank you for your comment, but that’s really not how I see it. The way I see it, his behavior revealed to me that he was oblivious about a few things (boundaries, what it’s like to fear assault on a regular basis). This obliviousness ruined the potential for their to be a connection. I don’t think he’s a bad person but I don’t have the responsibility or energy to fix him so he can be friend material for me. It’s sad the world is like this sometimes but I am very much at peace with my decision.