When (& How) to Ask About Pronouns:

A Shy Enby’s Guide for Cis & Trans People

One of Target’s pronoun pins from last summer.

When should you ask a new person what their pronouns are? Should a group start with a “pronoun circle”, in which every person is expected to offer their pronouns up? Should you only ask people who look trans (whatever that means), or should you ask all people? Should you just call everybody “they” all the time unless told otherwise…