You have assumed I have a position that I do not actually have, so worth reflecting on why you assumed that (when you, yourself are clearly someone who has unfairly been on the receiving end of the same thing). See my piece "The Issues with Aspergers" as well as my piece "We Can Abolish Language Policing". I believe expecting all Autistic people to use the exact same terminology is quite ableist indeed, and more broadly that social justice movements focus entirely too much on surface-level displays of perfection via language than on systemic issues and that it serves as a disempowering pacifying distraction.